• Title: Unorthodox
  • Author: Deborah Feldman
  • ISBN: 9783905951790
  • Page: 336
  • Format: Hardcover
  • Unorthodox Am Tag seines Erscheinens f hrte der Titel Unorthodox schlagartig die Bestsellerliste der New York Times an und war sofort ausverkauft Wenige Monate sp ter durchbrach die Auflage die Millionengrenze D
    Am Tag seines Erscheinens f hrte der Titel Unorthodox schlagartig die Bestsellerliste der New York Times an und war sofort ausverkauft Wenige Monate sp ter durchbrach die Auflage die Millionengrenze Die amerikanische Presse erkl rte diesen Erfolg von Deborah Feldmans Bericht so Noch nie hat eine Autorin ihre Befreiung aus den Fesseln religi ser Extremisten so lebensnah,Am Tag seines Erscheinens f hrte der Titel Unorthodox schlagartig die Bestsellerliste der New York Times an und war sofort ausverkauft Wenige Monate sp ter durchbrach die Auflage die Millionengrenze Die amerikanische Presse erkl rte diesen Erfolg von Deborah Feldmans Bericht so Noch nie hat eine Autorin ihre Befreiung aus den Fesseln religi ser Extremisten so lebensnah, so ehrlich, so analytisch klug und dabei literarisch so anspruchsvoll erz hlt.In der chassidischen Satmar Gemeinde in Williamsburg, New York, herrschen die strengsten Regeln einer ultraorthodoxen j dischen Gruppe weltweit Die Satmarer, wie sie sich seit ihrer Gr ndung nach dem Zweiten Weltkrieg nennen, sehen im Holocaust eine von Gott verh ngte Strafe Um eine Wiederholung der Shoa zu vermeiden, fu hren sie ein abgeschirmtes Leben nach strengen Vorschriften Sexualit t ist ein Tabu, Ehen werden arrangiert, im Alltag wird Jiddisch gesprochen, Englisch gilt als verbotene, unreine Sprache Nach Sch tzungen z hlt die Gemeinde heute 120.000 Mitglieder, denen sie ein Netz an Sicherheit gew hrt ohne jegliche Freiheit.Deborah Feldman hat schon als Kind Ansto an der strikten Unterwerfung unter die vom Gr ndungsrabbiner der Sekte aufgestellten Lebensgesetze genommen, an der Ausgrenzung, der rmlichen Lebensweise und der Unterordnung der Frau Ihr Gerechtigkeitsempfinden und ihr Wissenshunger haben sie verst rkt durch verbotene Literatur angetrieben, ihren Alltag zu hinterfragen Stets hat sie Angst, entdeckt und bestraft zu werden und ihren einzigen Ausweg aus der Enge ihrer Welt zu verlieren Unorthodox fu hrt in die einzigartige Welt von Kindheitserlebnissen, die voller Unschuld scheinen und Einblick geben in alte j dische Traditionen Sie f hrt uns bis an die Grenze des Ertr glichen, wenn sie ihre Zwangsehe schildert, und sie l sst uns nachempfinden, wie sie Mut und Kraft zum Auszug aus der Gemeinde findet um mit ihren Sohn in eine ihr v llig unbekannte Welt in New York zu ziehen.Unorthodox ist eine meisterhafte Schilderung des Emanzipationsprozesses einer jungen Frau aus tiefer Einsamkeit und Angst hin zu einem einzigen Punkt dem eigenen Denken und F hlen.

    One Reply to “Unorthodox”

    1. 5 "controversial, vivid, courageous" stars !This book has been through so much controversy. Friends, family and her former hasidic Satmar community have blogged, exposed and tried to shame Ms. Feldman into quiet submission of her experiences and opinions and thoughts. I have perused some of these. I do not blame the community for reacting in this way. Some of them believe in the divinity and peacefulness of their way of life. Others are envious of her freedom and for others it may trigger their [...]

    2. The minute I started this book I was engrossed and I finished it within 2 days. I found as a woman, it was almost infuriating to read. I also think it is disgusting and awful that so many from her former "community" are stalking her and posting fake reviews calling the book false. This book is HER memoir and HER truth and she is completely and utterly entitled to it. This is a rare look into this strange community. It is an interesting read for me personally since I live in an area where there i [...]

    3. While "Unorthodox" is a fascinating and enthralling book, I feel as though it was written several years too early. The book left me with many questions, questions that perhaps could not be addressed by the author because her escape from Hasidism is still too fresh. Did she ever get to the bottom of her husband's infidelity? How was she able to take her son with her when she mentions in the book that 'it's never been done'? Did she lose all contact with her grandparents after she left? Did she be [...]

    4. Deborah Feldman's narrative has been challenged by many who know her, and although some (though not all) of the challenges may arguably fall into the realm of "he said she said," there is enough here to render her memoir dubious at best. I think we may be in James Frey land here.Deborah Feldman describes a childhood where she was raised by her grandparents, having been abandoned as a toddler by her mother to a mentally retarded father incapable of caring for her properly. Except some apparently [...]

    5. Many of the details this book are apparently inaccurate, exaggerated, or even fabricated. I learned only after reading the book, for example, that the author has a much younger sister--so she couldn't have actually been abandoned by her mother as a toddler. She apparently also only attended a Satmar school for a few years after being expelled from one or two more liberal Jewish schools. I was suspicious, additionally, about the author's silence on how exactly she gained custody of her son (when, [...]

    6. A brave woman wrote this book and her spirit shines throughout. It takes exceptional courage to break out of the only life you've ever known, especially one as repressive to women as Hasidic Judaism seems to be. The story is a fascinating look inside this closed community where, like all communities, there is both good and bad. The author knew instinctively that she couldn't thrive where she was planted, and she knew this at a young age. The book is her journey from childhood to adulthood and ho [...]

    7. Would you like being brought up to never go into a public library? If you did manage to sneak in and get a library card which you have to hide, you would also have to hide your books under the mattress. You even have to hide 'Little Women'! If Deborah Feldman had not had the courage to wonder and then seek out knowledge about the outside world, this book never would have been written. I believe that her desire to know more her desire to read. That desire was a fountain of information for her and [...]

    8. “I struggle to be normal and dream of being extraordinary,” Feldman writes in her incisive, moving memoir, UNORTHODOX. Hers is an extraordinary story of struggle and dream.Deborah Feldman lost family, friends, community when she left Hasidic Williamsburg — an escape planned so intelligently that she was able to win joint custody of her child. Jewish fundamentalist enclaves do not hesitate to separate children from parents who choose to leave the fold, and often succeed in convincing secula [...]

    9. Es ist ein unglaublich informatives und vor allen Dingen auch erschreckendes Werk. Wenn die Wahrheit ans Licht kommt, ist das immer ein besonderer Akt und ich glaube hierbei wurden einige Leute in ihrer Ehre verletzt. Doch was ist Ehre? Ich glaube, mit der Unterdrückung und keinem Stück Wertschätzung der Frauen, hat das Wort Ehre kaum einen Platz. Keine Welt für mich, aber ich bin froh, dass man durch die Literatur erfahren kann, wie auf der Welt gelebt wird. Wie gelebt wird, wie gedacht wir [...]

    10. I have been fascinated by Hasidim since a) I read Chaim Potok's novels, which led to b) my senior thesis on the relationship between Hasidic Jews and blacks in Brooklyn Heights, New York. As a result, I had high hopes for this book, and it did not disappoint. A fascinating, heart-breaking, beautifully written memoir.

    11. This book felt deeply insincere and in an odd way, pardon the pun, unobservant—as if the writer did not deign it her job to pay attention to what is going on. The apartment rodent invested, the streets always dirty, the classmates mean or stupid or ugly, the teachers ignorant but only in comparison to the writerSo to me, her attempts to frame herself as a victim and smarter than all those around her only serve to annoy. It is very clever in setting up the community based on the repeated adages [...]

    12. A story of a girl brought up in a religion and culture that feels foreign to her from the start and her experience trying to separate from it. I gravitate towards stories like these because I think many people have similar experiences and can relate to the struggles of discovering who you truly are, and what you believe in. Then, how you deal with the negative impact that has on your future with your family and community who can't and aren't willing to understand. I gave this book two stars for [...]

    13. “Unorthodox” is an authentic, gripping narrative of the author’s experiences growing up in an oppressive religious Hasidic community, and of how she courageously walked away from that community to provide a better life for herself and her child.Having lived many years in that community myself, I can attest to the veracity of the author’s description of the Hasidic lifestyle, as well as relate to the challenges she faced in leaving, and the exhilaration of being able to freely explore the [...]

    14. With all the hype and publicity this book generated I have to say that I was a bit disappointed. I so badly wanted to like this but there were a few things that bothered me that I just couldn't get past. The book was decently written, (not particularly good writing but the honesty and humor make up for it), however the overall tone of the book made me instinctively distrust the author. I kept feeling like the author was more focused on taking her anger and hurt over her perceived rejection out o [...]

    15. Deborah Feldman's "Unorthodox” is heartbreaking, inspiring & brimming with chutzpah.She slowly and skillfully reveals the secrets of the fanatical Satmar Chassidic community. She pulled me into the daily life of her family as I met her bubby cooking chicken soup and her grandfather reciting biblical litanies. Her family members are deeply enshrouded in the old world belief systems. Deborah secretly struggles to reclaim her voice and break free from her family traditions. She is a feisty, f [...]

    16. Ein eindrucksvoller Einblick in die Lebenswelt einer ultra-orthodoxen jüdischen Gemeinde in Brooklyn. Der Begriff Parallelgesellschaft ist am Beispiel dieser Glaubensgemeinschaft tatsächlich angebracht. Strenge Abgrenzung nach außen und strikte gegenseitige Kontrolle innerhalb der Gemeinschaft, bis in die innersten Familienkreise, bestimmen das alltägliche Leben. Besonders die Rolle der Frauen, die sich peinlichen Prozeduren ausgesetzt sehen und deren Wirkungskreis fast völlig auf die Aufga [...]

    17. I read this book because I thought I would be able to relate to Ms. Feldman. I, too, left an insular community (in my case Old Order Amish) in which preserving the collective or community was valued over an individual's freedom. I know what it's like to be required to follow the rules blindly, even when these rules contradict one another and any self-respecting person can't help but question them. I know what it feels like to have my education limited in an intentional attempt to keep me ignoran [...]

    18. Mark Twain once said twenty years from now we’ll be more disappointed by the things we didn’t do than the things we did do. Mr. Twain might have changed that around some had he read Unorthodox: The Scandalous Rejection of My Hasidic Roots by Deborah Feldman.I was excited when I first heard about this book and excited when I finally got it. I was interested in learning about Hasidic Judaism from an insider’s perspective and what happened in the author's life to make her leave the faith. I w [...]

    19. I think I can now finally review this book, after taking a few days to chew on it. My initial reaction when I finished Unorthodox was WOW, incredible book. But, there were nagging thoughts in the back of my mind. I started reading this book, fully aware of the controversy surrounding it and the accusation that it is more fiction than fact, a la James Frey (someone I’ve not yet forgiven for his manipulations and mis-truths.) Still, I found myself sucked in to Friedman’s stories of life in a S [...]

    20. This book doubles as a memoir and as an expose of the Satmar Jewish sect, a group so conservative that they're anti-Israel because that land was supposed to be returned to them by God, not by the UN. Feldman's portrayal of them is scathing, but probably fair; Satmars are, after all, like any other religious extremists, dicks. At one point in this book a guy castrates and murders his son for masturbating; at another the neighborhood watch catch and beat to a pulp some black kid for no provable re [...]

    21. I'm almost halfway through this book, but it's my last-resort book when I'm tired of the other books I'm reading at the same time. It's not that it isn't a good read. It mostly is, though it's written in a pretty basic, I-wrote-this-in-college-English-class kind of style. The real problem is if you've read one I-escaped-ultra-Orthodox-Judaism book, you've kind of read them all. Unchosen (Hella Winston) was this book about a male Satmar Hasid done much better. And it's kind of a shame the message [...]

    22. I seem to be alone in not caring for this book. The writing was OK but rather like a well written diary. Nothing out of the ordinary. While there isn't a thing in Deborah's life I would want in my own, I do feel that her dysfunctional family and that of her husband's has as much to do with her experience as does the limitations of an orthodox life. I do know there are ultra orthodox families in which there is a great deal of warmth and love and respect. Women can be treated badly or women can be [...]

    23. Deborah Feldman grew up in in the ultra religious Satmar sect of Hasidic Judaism. She chafed at all it's rules and restrictions, of which there were many, especially for the women. She married a young man she barely knew at age 17. After she had a baby, their marriage became untenable, and Deborah sought the freedom she always desired. She escaped her marriage and the Hasidic community, and made a new life for herself and her son elsewhere.That's the story as she presents it, though she adds a l [...]

    24. I've been struggling for many days over how to review this book. Being an orthodox Jew with some strong ties to the strictly chassidic communities Feldman was raised in makes me confused as to how I am "supposed" to react to her self-proclaimed "scandalous rejection" of said community. As I was reading the book, I had many thoughts, mainly that I didn't feel as outraged as others in my community had (and honestly, most of them hadn't even read it). To me, the story seemed very much a memoir, nam [...]

    25. To me, this was definitely a riveting and interesting account of a woman who was able to lift herself above and away from a life trapping her and smothering her under some of the more shameful and backwards practices of what is undoubtedly one of the most fanatical sects of Judaism out there. In that respect, it was an engaging and powerful story; however, as a [non-fanatical] Jew, so much of the book bothered me.For one thing, there are often times when she refers to “halacha” (Jewish law) [...]

    26. Misleading title, but solid writing about a young Hasidic woman who chooses to leave her community. There is nothing titillating or scandalous about this story. It is (though) quite sad. Miss Feldman was born into a Satmar Hasidic community (movement comprised of Holocaust survivors). They believe that by keeping themselves socially isolated and reverting to old religious practices they will please God (who was displeased at their assimilation and a reason for allowing them to suffer in concentr [...]

    27. This was a giveaways book I won that I was very excited about, and it lived up to my expectations. I’ve always been curious about other cultures and learning their secret language, customs, rules and rituals, so I enjoyed the author’s bluntly honest look back at her childhood and growing up as a Hasidic Jew in the city. I grew up a Catholic girl in the suburbs, so our backgrounds may be polar opposites; however there are certain things we women have in common, plain and simple. I think any w [...]

    28. I'm Jewish although nothing close to Hasidic so I wasn't offended by this book as some ultra religious might be. I just thought there were SO many holes in this woman's story. I did enjoy the insight in how the uber Orthodox live but I already knew most of it but reading the everyday rituals was interesting. Once she finally got married (more than halfway through the book), I thought it all kind of fell apart. She had problems with her husband, she yearned for more out of life, we saw all this c [...]

    29. Full disclosure, Deborah is one of my best friends. I've been living to read this book & I relished getting to read it before its released. Deborah's writing makes you feel as if you are right by her side, I felt as though I could smell her Bubbys cooking and felt her excitement when she had a new good book to read. As much as I loved reading this book, I took my time reading it, because I didn't want it to end. Deborah's strength mixed with a naive innocence and determination to make a life [...]

    30. It was okay.I don't think all of the Jewish and/or Hasidic rules and customs were explained too well. I wish the author had stopped to explain what various things were and why they were important in the faith or where the rules came from. They have to cover their legs and wear wigs, but they can have contact lenses and Blackberrys?I also think the title is a bit misleading. The author spends most of the book talking about growing up in the Hasidic faith. She openly questions a lot of things espe [...]

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