• Title: Guyland: The Perilous World Where Boys Become Men
  • Author: Michael S. Kimmel
  • ISBN: 9780060831349
  • Page: 116
  • Format: Hardcover
  • Guyland The Perilous World Where Boys Become Men Why do so many guys seem stuck between adolescence and adulthood Why do so many of them fail to launch Just what is going on with America s young men The passage from adolescence to adulthood was once
    Why do so many guys seem stuck between adolescence and adulthood Why do so many of them fail to launch Just what is going on with America s young men The passage from adolescence to adulthood was once clear, coherent, and relatively secure in their late teenage years and early twenties, guys put away childish things and entered their futures as responsible adults TodWhy do so many guys seem stuck between adolescence and adulthood Why do so many of them fail to launch Just what is going on with America s young men The passage from adolescence to adulthood was once clear, coherent, and relatively secure in their late teenage years and early twenties, guys put away childish things and entered their futures as responsible adults Today growing up has become complex and confusing as young men drift casually through college and beyond hanging out, partying, playing with tech toys, watching sports But beneath the appearance of a simple extended boyhood, a dangerous social world has developed, far away from the traditional signposts and cultural signals that once helped boys navigate their way to manhood.The average young American man today is moving through a new stage of development, a buddy culture unfazed by the demands of parents, girlfriends, jobs, kids, and other nuisances of adult life Sociologist and gender studies authority Michael Kimmel has identified this territory as Guyland, a place that is both a stage of life and a new social arena.Guyland is the locker room writ large the world where young men both test and prove themselves as men and develop the defining attitudes and self images they will carry into adulthood Kimmel has interviewed hundreds of young men ages sixteen to twenty six in high schools and college fraternity houses, military academies and sports bars, to better understand Guyland s rules and restrictions, its layers of peer pressure and gender policing, its features and artifacts from the ordinary video games, sports, and music to the extreme violent fraternity initiations, sexual predation.In mapping the social world where tomorrow s men are made, Kimmel offers a view into the minds and times of America s sons, brothers, and boyfriends, and works toward redefining what it means to be a man today and tomorrow Only by understanding this world and this life stage can we enable young men to chart their own paths, to stay true to themselves, and to travel safely through Guyland, emerging as responsible and fully formed men of integrity and honor.

    One Reply to “Guyland: The Perilous World Where Boys Become Men”

    1. This book was mediocre, mostly just because I already know that college-aged straight white dudes are generally the worst. Nothing was particularly bad about this book, but nothing was extremely impressing either. If anything, I'm just more disturbed and angry at the white guy culture, and I wish this book touched more on how girls can help other than being a mother and teaching future generations to do better. (Which isn't happening because haha. Me with kids? nah.)

    2. I don't want to out and out trash this book, because there are glimmers of brilliance in it. Unfortunately, most of those insights last all of a paragraph, and then we're back with the meat of the book, which I would describe most uncharitably as: A rehash of arguments from Manhood in America and The Gendered Society dumbed-down and cuted-up to a "this'd better get me on the Today Show level." Sorry, but no one is going to start calling a life stage "Guyland," no matter how many times you diss J [...]

    3. Guyland is less of a place than an attitude, a realm of existence. Occupied by young, single, white men, its main demographic is middle class kids who are college-bound, college co-eds, or recent graduates in the United States. They live in communal housing with fraternity brothers or other recent grads. They work entry-level jobs but act aimless. They have plenty of time to party like they did in college and subsist on pizza, beer, and a visual diet of cartoons, sports, and porn. They hook up w [...]

    4. I wanted to give this 5 stars but ultimately did not because his case studies and examples are a little too narrow. He makes a good case using statistics that the culture of fraternities filled with white men is overwhelmingly toxic on many college campuses. He then asserts that similar problems exist with other white men of the same age who didn't go to college but provides little evidence for it. So I really liked what he says, and it rings true to me from my own experience, but I think the ev [...]

    5. Couldn't finish this. It's an important topic, but this treatment is marred by a far too narrow focus (upper middle class spoiled white boys) and Kimmel's completely obnoxious writing style. The whole thing could boil easily down to "stop raising your kids like they are owed the world, elite people!" but Kimmel is quick to exculpate individuals ("this isn't about bad parenting!" he says regarding boys whorape and assault; "these aren't a bunch of raving psychotics!" he assures us regarding boys [...]

    6. The traditional markers of reaching manhood have long ago been eroded: most males are in their late-twenties/early-thirties before they have a “real” job, a marriage, kids or their own home. Michael Kimmel examines the wasteland that exists after adolescence, where males are not men, just “guys”.These 18-25-year-old guys tend to be overeducated but underemployed, with a sense of entitlement that does not align with the privilege that they don’t receive. “Hooking up” with girls is j [...]

    7. I read that this book was like a male version of "Reviving Ophelia", and it was not, which was disappointing. Kimmel sort of writes about guyland as if he has never met a guy before in his life? Maybe he just treats the subject too sociolog-ey. "Watch as the interesting creatures submit to the barbaric ritual they refer to as 'POWER. HOUR.'" (I'm paraphrasing.) Or maybe it's because I went to a frat heavy college, so I wasn't surprised to hear about POWER. HOUR and KEG. STANDS. And since I'm a g [...]

    8. Being the demographic about whom Kimmel is writing (except not heterosexual), I felt I needed to read this. Feeling the listlessness and aimlessness he ascribes to males 16-26 who graduate college fit me quite well.Unfortunately, I did not connect to the text as I thought, as being gay, this was a world I did not live in, and being a feminist already, many of the arguments were ones I'd read elsewhere, for a different audience, and with different intents.The style with which Kimmel writes about [...]

    9. In Guyland, Kimmel describes and analyzes young American males with all the civilized horror of an eighteenth century missionary reporting on the customs and activities of naked heathen cannibals. These savages, born innocent and full of childish wonder, learn early to fear the scorn of their male peers and become so desperate for male approval that they will engage in bizarre and often criminal behavior. Enter “Guyland,” a human terrain inhabited by young men that Kimmel maps only by the mo [...]

    10. Guyland is an observation of the "macho" culture that pervades high school and college. It's written in a very anecdotal voice, which is accessible, though it leads Kimmel to paint in sometimes too-broad strokes. The book's message is one of male privilege and power, how that power perpetuates itself, and the fact that many males are uncomfortable with such, even though they perform such actions because it's how they "should" be.For me, this book put into words everything I found so disgusting a [...]

    11. Well-written, well-researched. Not what everyone wants to hear, but so what? Truth can be tough, and sometimes challenging. As a psychotherapist dealing with couples' issues, Guyland helps explain why so many men today have so much trouble identifying what they're feeling and skillfully expressing it in an intimate partnership.

    12. This was an interesting look at how in our society, boys stay boys for much longer than is healthy, and how their rituals and group behaviors are detrimental to true manhood and society. Very interesting.

    13. If you're already a feminist or participate and read about the socialization of gender, this won't be anything new, but it's a decent book that puts together different parts of how 16-26 year old men are obnoxious and why it hurts them as well as us. Sports, entertainment, porn, dating- all of these issues are examined for how the masculine facade can turn something as simple as watching the big game into a messy experience. Personally, I could've gone without some of the quotes from questionabl [...]

    14. This has been on my list for a while and it did not disappoint. The author's goal is to explain the bro culture that young men find themselves immersed in from roughly ages 15-25, with lingering effects afterward. This culture promotes "real men" as violent, sexually competitive, and hedonistic, while also justifying a prolonged childhood of staying unattached and avoiding responsibilities or self-improvement. The culture of "Guyland" is driven mostly by white, middle class, straight guys. Men w [...]

    15. I am giving this 3 instead of 4 stars due to it being about the U.S, where I am not. Therefore I feel like there are gaps in information.I was worried going into this as my friend said there was difficult material. That is an understatement. At the beginning of reading I did not hold high hopes as the author seemed to be focusing on how hard "guys" lives are and seemed to be blaming it on their fathers. It's currently 2015 and the economic situation is crappy for everyone, including young people [...]

    16. I liked this book quite a lot. I think it is both useful and necessary. In light of that, I think that it could have been better than it was. It could have stretched itself. There were also some things that I found to be problematic. For example, Kimmel asserts that all girls' hazing serves to uphold the male hierarchy, with the implication that it all involves such things as performing mock fellatio on a boy while ignoring the fact that girls have their own separate Girlland as much as guys hav [...]

    17. How do I describe the mixed feelings I had about this book? On the one hand, Michael Kimmel takes on some questions that need be answered. Why are young men waiting longer to settle down, get married, and become responsible adults? How do we explain and understand the culture of "hooking up" that has transplanted dating in college-aged youth? What can we do to help boys make the transition to manhood in a culture that offers few positive definitions of what this transition even means? Kimmel del [...]

    18. OK, i agree that this is predominately a "sociology for the masses" book, along the lines of "pledged." nothing wrong with that at all, except for the fact that this study gives us over 250 pages of really disturbing and frankly just sad data and then provides a disproportionate seven pages of "what we can do to help our men." i recognize that this is not a behavioral workbook or a self-help book, but still, after reading so much disheartening and upsetting material, i'd like to have at least a [...]

    19. This book probably deserves a higher rating than I'm giving it, but since it fell so short of my expectations I can't bring myself to rate it any higher. Apologies for any inaccuracies since I'm writing this so long after reading it.Guyland's main focus is the extended adolescence that the men of today are susceptible to; or rather a very specific subset of predominantly upper-class, college-bound, white, heterosexual men. Beyond the issues arising from the narrow demographic Guyland presents, I [...]

    20. I suppose most perceptive people of really all generations can tell you that kids aren't the same today that they were years ago. Whether or not there's disgust, jealousy or a disapproving head shake probably depends upon what generation you find yourself. Then again, every generation can and will say that about the ones that follow.To say that there are men today in their twenties and thirties who refuse to grow up is indeed an understatement. But then again, you might not see it as such depend [...]

    21. I’m all over the place about this book. I learned some things, but overall it lacked focus and many of the quotes seemed contrived.I thought the intro was all over the map and the promotional quotes on the back didn’t really describe the content of the book. As for the chapters, the author brings up important topics which are for the most part well organized. But as soon as he gets on a subject he throws out an extreme quote to back up what he’s saying and then uses sweeping generalization [...]

    22. This was another book that I read for my intro to women's and gender studies class and on the whole, I really enjoyed it. This book is all about the world that white, upper-middle class American boys grow up in. I think that this is a particularly important book for college students and parents.Kimmel's writing is not overly dense, but he definitely still sounds intelligent and this book is still very well researched on the whole. It's hard to write a review of this book, because it's a book one [...]

    23. First, it's nice when the end page number is 300-something, but 30 pages of that is endnotes/references.Most importantly: this book reminds me why I love sociology and sociological texts. Not all school books are boring and dry, for sure. The best thing about books like Guyland is that they are easily read/understood, interesting, and so applicable to our individual lives it's almost painful at times. Half the things Kimmel explains this book, I previously hadn't thought of but once they were po [...]

    24. You know how parents read parenting books? This should be a must-read for all individuals who need to interact with 16-26 year old men daily. Seriously, there is no harm in studying the person you will have to be dealing with intimately, especially since it's unlikely they have the reflectiveness to know that this is what's going on with them. It's a great book that actually made me feel better about my brothers and my boyfriend sometimes being complete turds. It does tend to focus mostly on men [...]

    25. Phew. This took me forever to get through. It has some good information and some interesting insights. However, it really dragged for me because the author repeated the same themes over and over. I think this book could have been about 1/3 as long as it is with the same information being communicated.

    26. I haven't read Kimmel's other works, so I don't know if the reviews that state this is somewhat a rehash are correct.That said the best review I can give is - Well, it explains much. I will also point out that this review says it best.

    27. It was definitely an interesting and worthwhile read.The author seems to do this odd tettering between areas I think he is inflating, and areas he claims are inflated that I think further evidence now shows are not (namely, the prevalence of sexual assault really is as high as he claims are likely inflated numbers). I also just wonder how much of this has changed - namely due to the huge culture change around LGBTQ people. I'd also be curious about how he'd put homonormativity in this, because I [...]

    28. I'll repeat what others have said: this book isn't bad, but it isn't great. It's incredibly basic and limited in its exploration of heavy topics, which is maybe good for someone who has never read about this stuff before but for me, it just came off as a cheap, over-simplified way of explaining something that's been written about more critically before. (also all of his references are outdated, even for when he was writing this. how so out of touch?)

    29. This book could have been a lot of things.What it ended up being was a reminder that young, white men are part of a culture that is harmful to society. So, in that sense, job done. However, I was not impressed by the lack of academic reasoning in this book, nor was I impressed by the far-reaching arguments that could not only encompass the male, college-aged students he describes but also any other student-aged person.I wanted to like it; I couldn't take it seriously.

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